Dr Pam Spurr

Get Condom Confidence!

Get Condom Confidence!

"Condom confidence" as I call it is terribly important to your sexual health. If you want to develop your condom confidence so that condoms don't become a passion killer, try these steps -

Practice makes perfect so just in case he hasn't been practising with condoms make sure you know how to open them up and which way to unroll them.

To help make the magic moment goes smoothly, as soon as you know at sex is on the cards, open up the condom packet, slip one out and rest it on top of the packet where you know the condom won't get damaged - like on your bedside table.

To give him a little extra fabulous pleasure, have some condom-friendly lube to hand. Before you slip the condom on to his penis squirt a little lube into the tip of the condom. This will give him a yummy, moist sensation more like the feeling he'd get from touching you without a condom.

Turn slipping that condom on to him into a bit a fantasy play. Ask him to lie back and be a good "patient". Pretend you're a naughty nurse who slips on top of him and takes hold of his penis giving it a few strokes with your hand before you gently slip that condom on. He'll love up the sex-play!

Or tell him that you want to give him a sexy massage as he lies back before you slip the condom on. Takes some condom-friendly lube and massage in onto his inner thighs, testicles and perineum. Take a vibrator and gently vibrate this lubriated area. Turn off the vibrator and start slipping the condom on. While it's only half way on, start vibrating his lubricated loins again. Then turn of the vibrator and finished slipping the condom down the base of his shaft.