Dr Pam Spurr

Getting Him to Do Tantric Sex Without Even Knowing It!

Getting Him to Do Tantric without Even Knowing It!

To broaden his sexual horizons, without freaking him out with New Age ideas, tell him there's a "pleasure centre" in the mind that’s located behind and slightly above the eye area. He’ll relate far more easily to "pleasure centre" than if you call it the Anja Chakra. Suggest that while he's thrusting he meditates on that area and visualises that point in his mind and that you'll do the same. Explain that it’ll heighten both or yours sexual pleasure.

Once you’ve both reached climax use a "fresh" (not one you've just been playing with!) vibrator and slowly move it across his chest and nipples. The vibrations will reawaken him! Then take the vibrator - and while he's watching - circle your own nipples with it so he'll get aroused as they spring to life again.

The best position for regular stimulation that's within a woman's control is the CAT - clitoral alignment technique - with her on top, legs inside his. While on top of him you should shimmy slightly upwards so your clitoral region hits the lower part of his pubic bone. This ensures you don’t miss out on stimulation because often the clitoris is in "limbo" not hitting the base of his shaft either. Once aligned like this use it as a time for sexy fantasy chat while you move your clitoris against his lower pubic-bone region, in rhythmic, perhaps circular, motions. As you two chat about your fantasies he can reach around behind your buttocks and caress them. Or even reach further and caress you lower down, touching the lowermost part of your labia and perineum. Because you've got him chatting - or enjoying touching you from behind - you can take your time and bring yourself to climax like this.