Dr Pam Spurr

Tips for a little Christmas sex!

"It's absolutely true "you’ll lose it if you don't use it" - that goes for sex or any other activity! What people don't realise is that there are so many things you lose out on if you let your sex-life go completely down the drain. Not only is it a fantastic way to bond intimately with your partner making you both feel special, but getting down to the nitty-gritty the release of sexual tension also releases feel-good hormones putting you in a better mood to cope with the stress of Christmas preparations.

Not only this but Medical Research shows those who have regular sex, throughout their lives, live longer and psychological research shows those who keep their sex-life intact are more likely to keep their relationship together. Also there's the fantastic benefit of increased energy levels because those who have regular sex also tend to keep their whole life in balance, enhancing fitness and well-being.

In this busy time, treat lovemaking as important as any other engagement in your diary. Telephone your lover, have a flirt, and put in some sensational sex-dates. Once in the diary treat these like gold dust - you don't cancel them! This is even more important if you live together because then the routine of daily life, coupled with the stress in the run-up to Christmas, means you're more likely to take each other for granted.

A few sexy tips include marking out the 12 Days of Sex-mas in your calendar. Do one little, tiny flirtatious or seductive thing in each of the days leading up to Christmas. For example, meet your lover for some Christmas shopping but go do some grown-up shopping and choose some sexy underwear and adult toys. Or go to your local bakery for some Christmas goodies but have a "rude-food feast" in bed that evening. Crumble a delicious and moist mince pie all over your lover's body and then spread lashings of luscious whipped cream on top of that to gently lick it off. It's true that money can’t buy you love so why not make a Christmas card for your partner and inside mark down 10 "treats". They get to choose three for you to do to them. The 10 options might include things like a sensual massage, stripping for them, giving them oral pleasure, doing a new and daring sex position, etc. Enjoy yourselves and get into the spirit of giving...to each other!"