Dr Pam Spurr

Sex Info You Must Know!

Sex Info You Must Know!

One of the best sex tips I've got -

First and foremost you've got to know your own body - so a little self-pleasure goes a massive way to sharing their knowledge with your partner.

There are all sorts of great techniques - and people are so individual - that one thing won't satisfy everyone.

If you want to build trust in bed take turns giving each other sensual massage when blindfolded. You can do this with very subtle lighting or by candlelight. The person giving the massage makes sure the person receiving it is comfortable and warm before they put the blindfold on. Once blindfolded, they relax back as their partner gently caresses them. They can use a lovely lubricant to gently massage over their partner's body.

Getting spoiled does wonders for your sex life and one good way is with some bath time sex-play. Ask him to soap you down while you luxuriate in warm sudsy water. He can start with your fingertips taking each hand one at a time and gently caressing it with a washcloth. Then he can do the same to your feet before you allow him to gently stroke your erogenous zones.

If you're a bit shy definitely let your fingers do part of the “talking” when you want to move on doing sex-play and simply start touching your partner in a way that’s suggestive of trying something new. With many things it's easy to let those fingers do all the “talking” as you guide his hands to new erogenous zones. Or say you two experiment with sex toys and you'd love the benefit, say, of feeling the sensation of a vibrator between you during penetrative sex. Then without saying anything you can slip the vibrator between your two bodies for extra pleasure during full sex.

This is one of my favourite techniques to recommend as not only is it incredibly simple but it has the power to turn-on any woman, even those who have difficulty getting aroused. It gives a real teasing sensation that he can do for as long as you want.

As you two are kissing and touching you can move his fingers into this. Imagine that his index and middle fingers form a classic V-sign. However he doesn't close his thumb and outer two fingers into his palm. They simply relax outwards away from the V-sign. Now get him to slip this V-sign over your pubic mound, moving his two fingertips downwards (towards your perineum/bottom) so that his index finger "covers" one of your labia and his middle finger "covers" the other labia.

He only slips them down over your labia to roughly the point that your clitoris ends up in line with the bottom of his fingers (nearest to the palm of his hand).

The placement's important so that as he moves his V-sign lightly forwards and backwards skimming your labia, and so your clitoris is barely stimulated. In this way your entire clitoral region is stimulated, getting maximum teasing!

He can keep this gentle rocking-action going as long as you want and you'll probably be dying for full sex because it's such a turn on.

For a bit of sexual bliss encourage him to use his fingertips like little droplets of rain, as if in a "pitter-patter" pattern of tiny raindrops that land gently along your skin. He should go for the erogenous loan about a hand's width below your belly button and a couple centimetres above your clitoris. Let his fingertips alight in a raindrop pattern back and forth across your pubic mound. Because the clitoral region expands out underneath the skin, down your labia, and around your pubic bone this tip will heighten the sensations in that whole area. And when he lightly pitter-patters his fingertips across this pubic bone area he sends loads of tiny vibrations into your clitoris. This can quite literally drive you mad, particularly if you have a very sensitive clitoris. You can also try rain-drop touching on him!