Nine Not-To-Be-Missed Tips To Change Your Sex Life!
Nine Not-To-Be-Missed Tips To Change Your Sex Life!
We all worry about getting the most out of our sex life. So I thought I'd select nine, not-to-be-missed tips for you to try. They range from the simplest to the sexiest and will definitely put the sizzle into your sex life.
The selection includes a few specifically for your pleasure, a few specifically for his, and some to heighten both of your experiences.
“V” Is For Victory
This is one of my favourite techniques to recommend as not only is it incredibly simple but it has the power to turn-on any woman, even those who have difficulty getting aroused. It gives a real teasing sensation that he can do for as long as you want.
As you two are kissing and touching you can move his fingers into this. Imagine that his index and middle fingers form a classic V-sign. However he doesn't close his thumb and outer two fingers into his palm. They simply relax outwards away from the V-sign. Now get him to slip this V-sign over your pubic mound, moving his two fingertips downwards (towards your perineum/bottom) so that his index finger "covers" one of your labia and his middle finger "covers" the other labia.
He only slips them down over your labia to roughly the point that your clitoris ends up in line with the bottom of his fingers (nearest to the palm of his hand).
The placement’s important so that as he moves his V-sign lightly forwards and backwards skimming your labia, and so your clitoris is barely stimulated. In this way your entire clitoral region is stimulated, getting maximum teasing!
He can keep this gentle rocking-action going as long as you want and you'll probably begging soon for full sex because it's such a turn on.
Your Personal Pleasure Chest
Every girl should have a pleasure chest! You can keep this at your bedside. This is what a wise woman puts together and keeps handy for spontaneous sex. Put all your favourite things that enhance your sex-life into your pleasure chest.
What should you include? Everything from a great supply of condoms to your sex toys. Keep your favourite lubricants in it as well as a pot of honey or your favourite flavour of jam like yummy strawberry. You might also want to include things like a blindfold, handcuffs, a cock ring, silky stockings, your favourite erotica or sexy magazines, edible body paint, and other little items like a feather for feathering and a body brush.
Worship At His Alter
Here is an incredibly hot technique to use with him. All you have to do is kneel between his legs while he stands above you. From this position you can reach up and hold his hips while you give him oral sex. Make sure you caress his bottom while you give him oral pleasure - you can reach between his thighs and stroke this area for extra stimulation. He'll feel like all his Christmases have come at once!
A sizzling tip is to ask him to gently hold the back of your head to help guide your movements while his penis is in your mouth. This position is also fantastic for some fantasy play where you ask him to pretend that he's your master and you're his sex slave. Both of you can have fun with this! Don't forget you can always swap over once he's been pleasured and you can stand above him while he worships at your alter.
Oriental Body Massage & The Thai Hair Massage
Men absolutely love the sensation of the softness of a woman's skin against theirs. It contrasts so much with their own skin - often hairier and rougher - that it immediately makes them appreciate the difference in your feminine body. You can heighten his appreciation of your skin by giving him an oriental body massage.
Do this during foreplay - the perfect time is when he's lying on his back. Raise yourself up on your arms and allow your naked breasts to gently swish across his chest. Then move downwards so they skim his stomach and hips. Then you can move on top of him in a sort of ‘push up’ position and glide your entire body, from your hips to your breasts, across his. Continue to kiss him while you do this.
Thailand is notorious for its sex trade. Thankfully it’s not all seedy and there are some sizzling experiences that the masseuses give their clients. One of these is the Thai Hair Massage. Again, it's perfect for foreplay. Ask him to lie back and pull yourself up over him. His shirt should be off. Lean over and let the ends of your hair swish back and forth across his chest and abdomen. Keep it out of his face - that's not very sexy! Alternate this with a fingertip massage before going back to using your hair.
The Pearl Necklace Technique
This is a fantastic little technique that will make him think you’re the most experienced lover. You'll need a beaded necklace - a fake pearl one is ideal. Take his penis between your hands and with lashings of lubricant start moving them up and down.
Next carefully wrap the pearl necklace (or any beaded necklace that doesn't have any sharp decorations or a sharp clasp!) loosely around the base of his penis. Then clutch it between your hand and the base of his penis. Place your other hand on top of the hand at the base. Now gently start rolling the necklace up and down the base of his shaft with the lubricant making it a fluid motion.
This will feel amazing to him! Just make sure you don't move the necklace so far up his shaft that it catches the base of his glans - his penile head. That could feel a little painful to him. And don't catch the necklace in his pubic hair.
Million Dollar Vibrations
This will positively make sex sizzle for him. You definitely need to know where his ‘million-dollar spot’. This is located between his legs and at about the centre of his perineum. His perineum is the band of skin that runs from the base of his testicles to his anus. Men vary in sensitivity at different points on this erogenous zone so find the exact spot - the million-dollar spot - that gives him most pleasure. The million-dollar spot’s located over his prostate and when you stimulate this area it puts pressure on his prostate.
Stroke this area with your fingertips and ask him which part feels best. Then take a vibrator, using it on low-speed, and gently circle his million-dollar spot with it. As always with vibrators use a lubricant to make it a sexier vibe! Most men love this trick once they've been introduced to it although some may be a little bit inhibited at first by the idea of you using a vibrator in this area.
Men are obsessed about lasting long enough during penetrative sex - if they’re really turned on they start worrying they'll climax before you’re ready. You can use this trick very subtly so he won't feel like you're ‘telling him off’.
Tell him how good it feels to pulsate his PC muscle - those are the pelvic floor muscles that run from his pubic bone around to his anus. You also have pelvic floor muscles. When he's nice and erect during foreplay suggest that he pulsates these. Tell him that you've been told it strengthens the erection leading to a better orgasm once it’s time to climax. It does do this, too, but crucially he can learn to last longer. When you actually get down to full sex, ask him to do the pulsations again, and not only will you feel them inside you, but they’ll slow him down from reaching orgasm.
Across The Bridge
This is a sizzling trick for your pleasure. Let's say you're in the middle of foreplay and he wants to give you oral sex. Suggest that he moves himself so that he's lying sideways on to her hips. Move one of his hands flat on your pubic bone and guide him to carefully pull your entire pubic mound upwards. This helps to expose your clitoris. He can then use his other hand between your legs to sensually finger you.
Now suggest (believe me, men love being told what to do in a sexy tone of voice) he uses his tongue to lap sideways across your clitoris creating a whole new feeling for you. That's because usually men lie between your legs and lap up and over your clitoris. This sideways angle in "across the bridge" is both teasing and pleasing in equal measures!
Blind Man In The Buff - What Are You Being Touched With?
There are loads of little sex games you can play but this one is a naughty one guaranteed to give you lots of pleasure. It also helps develop sexual trust between you. All you need is a blind fold and your imagination!
Take turns doing this so both of you get the chance to be pleasured in this playful way. One of you is stripped off (although if you’re building trust you might want to leave sexy knickers on) and blindfolded. Make sure the one that’s stripped is lying comfortably in bed or on a sofa. Now the other touches and teases the blindfolded partner with their fingertips, their tongue, their lips, and sex toys. The blindfolded partner has to guess what they’re being touched with - harder than you'd imagine! Because, for example, the tip of his tongue might feel like the tip of his fingers with lubricant on them. When the person’s totally turned on you can swap roles.
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