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It's hot hot hot, so here are some lazy sex suggestions...

It's scorching in the UK (and many other areas) so I thought I'd dig out this past column of mine from the Sun newspaper about lazy summer sex.

Enjoy! Pam x

The Lazy Lover Guide: Seven Steps To Sizzling Sex (that doesn’t take much energy)

It’s veered from wet to hot and muggy this summer. That can put a dampener on your sex drive.

And you’re not alone if you feel that way. One survey found that although two thirds of people report feeling horny in hot weather when it comes to actually having sex many don’t bother.

But anyone who’s feeling lazy can fear not – I’ve seven sexy steps even the laziest lover can try.

Lazy Summer Days Sex Tip No. 1Summer siesta sex - Lounging about in a hammock or on outdoor chairs? Start some foreplay while you’re ‘al fresco’. It feels a bit naughty having lazy caresses in a rocking hammock. It’s relaxing and yet as foreplay progresses you might get a bit of the thrill. What if you’re spotted from a neighbour’s window?

This thrill adds another dimension to foreplay. Plus you might find the rocking motion hard to resist - careful if you take it further that no one can see you.

Lazy Summer Days Sex Tip No. 2Slip in a sexy shower - no excuses - you have to keep clean. So why not kill two birds with one stone and invite your partner in to lather up together?

Snuggle your bodies together as the water cascades over you. Drizzle shower gel over each other. Start to wash their body and, oops, her nipples spring to life as part of him does too.

Showers are sexy because deep down you love the thought of scrubbing up - just to get dirty again.

Don’t forgetoral sex in the shower is exhilarating. Plus you know you’re both fresh as a daisy.

Don’t bother purchasing a waterproof shower pillow – just roll up a towel to take turns kneeling on. Kneel between your partner’s legs with the shower on gentle. For added fun use the showerhead as a sex toy and sensuously run water over their erogenous zones.

Lazy Summer Days Sex Tip No. 3Don’t keep them hanging on the telephone – facetime sex is still so popular. If you’re feeling mega-lazy agree you’ll enjoy some 'cybersex'. While you say unspeakable - but hot - things to each other, you can self-pleasure to your hearts’ content.

Lazy Summer Days Sex Tip No. 4Sexy Slip and slide - you might feel lazy but you can still enjoy random foreplay moments. Let’s say you’re outside washing the car, why not spray each other with a garden hose? It’s sexy seeing each other dripping wet.

When you get playful and laugh together you’re far more likely to excuse lazy lovemaking.  
This is the perfect moment to banter about her wet T-shirt, his wet shorts. You’ll soon want to slip inside and out of your wet clothes for some lazy loving.

Lazy Summer Days Sex Tip No. 5Try the ice pop thrill ride – you’re not in the mood right now and you’re both sucking ice lollies lazing on the sofa. But start a new type of foreplay by teasing them with your ice pop. Run it across their lips.

Then take off your tops and run them along your bodies. Alternate the ice pop slipping over their skin followed by the heat of your tongue trailing after it. You don’t have to move from the sofa!

Swirl with the ice pop, stroke with it, suck it sensually with a glint in your eye. Then tease the other by tickling their most intimate zones with the end of your ice pop.

Lazy Summer Days Sex Tip No. 6Quickie ‘love’ for the lazy – too many people think quickies are the worst type of sex – wrong. They can heighten your passion. For instance, if you’ve been out for a relaxing drink or stroll you can decide to have a quick one in the back of the car.

Lazy Summer Days Sex Tip No. 7Remote-control turn on – For the laziest lazy lovers try one of the sex toys that are remote-controlled. She slips it into her panties and he controls the vibes she gets. He doesn’t even have to budge from his easy chair as she gets turned on! Of course ultimate satisfaction might happen if she joins him on that big easy chair for a gentle ride.

Dr Pam’s Position: Classic Spoons

For lazy summer sex nothing beats classic spoons. You both lie on your sides, he faces her back, and slips his arm around her waist. She parts her thighs so he can slip in from behind for slow sensual thrusting.

For extra pleasure: She pushes her bottom towards him and brings her knees up towards her chest . This gives better G spot access. The tip of his penis is more likely to thrust against her front vaginal wall giving sizzling sensations.


My new art-gift collection for the cost of a lovely bouquet!

I’m so excited to tell you about my Sentiment gift-art collection! This is a wonderful way to give a LASTING gift of art for the cost of a beautiful bouquet. 

Each piece comes in a luxury black gift box with gold tissue paper and ribbon and can be sent ANYWHERE in the world!

ORDER THIS UNIQUE, PERSONAL GIFT HERE: Sentiment Collection!

Here's all about it...

The Bickerton-Grace Gallery's created the unique 'Sentiment' gift-art process.

They take a full-size painting and expertly cut it into small pieces, before glazing and mounting each piece on a 24 carat gold gilded base, in a bespoke wood frame.

Each finished piece is 5 x 5 inches.

My painting Renewing Waters, has been prepared and each piece is available to purchase for yourself or as a gift for a loved one.

My painting represents one person’s story of feeling like they’d swum in “renewing waters” after facing some challenges. Life was beginning again...

Here’s the process beginning with my painting carefully separated into long strips… 

Followed by an image of some of the expertly cut squares...

This is one of the individual and unique squares of my painting...

Each piece is embellished and attached to a 24 carat gold gilded base, signed and numbered... 

Voilà, here’s one piece of Sentiment, beautifully finished and framed, ready to be delivered as a gift for someone special...

Each Sentiment piece arrives in a bespoke black wood frame and includes a photo of the whole painting.

On sale now on my website at £50 plus p&p. here's one of the pieces...

 

Here’s also a link to Bickerton-Grace.

Art lovers, anywhere in the world, who want an affordable gift of art could end up with a piece, as I can send them anywhere!

Please watch the brief video! 

Lots of love, Pam xx

 


Dating someone new and you can see a dealbreaker looming for your relationship?

In my new Wingman Dating App column I tackle a few key dealbreakers. Sometimes they do break you up but other times you can reach agreement.
 
Thursday, November 1, 2018: Dealbreakers | Odyssey Storytelling
Good luck, Pam x
 


Do you love setting up your single friends? Check my matchmaking guide...

I've set up lots of couples over the years - some have lasted, some haven't. But with lots of singles saying they feel most comfortable being set up by friends, here's the great matchmaker guide for you in my Wingman Dating App column.
 
Good luck with it! Pam x


Is your new partner as romantic as an old sock?

In my latest Wingman Dating App column I have tips for you to squeeze some romance at that and romantic partner.

A lot of people tell me they feel uncomfortable trying to help an unromantic partner see the light but these are some subtle tips. 

Good luck with getting that romance out of them!

Happy dating, Pam x

 

 


Are you in an on-off relationship like Robbie and Ayda Williams once weree? Read on...

 
 
The Sun newspaper asked me for thoughts on on-off relationships and at the end of this article I list some reasons why you shouldn't get back together depending on the situation.
 
You might love the drama and passion but that wears thin with time. It might be time to get out of a dysfunctional relationship! 
 
Take care, Pam x
 
 


Very excited to share my interview about some of my erotic paintings with you...

I gave the lovely people at Mystery Vibes an interview about my paintings and especially the erotic ones. Including how important it is to know your own body so that you can have real pleasure with your partner.
 
 
And you'll find some unique sex toys on their site for the tech-savvy lover.
 
Lots of love, Pam x
 


Four reasons why you might still be single...

 
I've worked as a date coach (one of my many hats) for about 20 years and there are recurrent reasons I hear singles mention about why they didn't see someone after two or three dates.
 
Here are some of those key reasons in my latest Wingman Dating App column.
 
Be honest with yourself, if these apply to you and be aware of them so you don't miss out on someone special.
 
I want you to avoid...
 
Happy dating, Pam x
 
 
 


Excited to launch my affordable gift of art collection...

I’m so excited to tell you about my Sentiment-painting journey! This is a wonderful way to give a gift of art where once you might’ve given a beautiful bouquet or luxury box of chocolates.

Pre-order this personal gift on my homepage - select "Art Gallery" and then select "Sentiment Collection"!

Here's all about it...

The Bickerton-Grace Gallery's created the unique Sentiment process.

They take a full-size painting and expertly cut it into small pieces, before glazing and mounting each piece on a 24 carat gold gilded base, in a bespoke wood frame. Each finished piece is 5 x 5 inches.

My painting Renewing Waters, has been prepared and is available to purchase as a piece for yourself or a gift for a loved one.

My painting represents one person’s story of feeling like they’d swum in “renewing waters” after facing some challenges. Life was beginning again...

Here’s the process beginning with my painting carefully separated into long strips… 

Followed by an image of some of the expertly cut squares...

This is one of the individual and unique squares of my painting...

Each piece is embellished and attached to a 24 carat gold gilded base, signed and numbered... 

Voilà, here’s one piece of Sentiment, beautifully finished and framed, ready to be delivered as a gift for someone special...

Each Sentiment piece arrives in a bespoke black wood frame and includes a photo of the whole painting.

On sale now on my website at £50 plus p&p. here's one of the pieces...

 

Here’s also a link to Bickerton-Grace.

Art lovers, anywhere in the world, who want an affordable gift of art could end up with a piece, as I can send them anywhere!

Please watch the brief video! 

Lots of love, Pam xx

 


Keep your new love alive with these key love-laws...

If you have a new relationship it can go either way - you face the hurdles that come to every couple and grow stronger - are you crash and burn when your sexual chemistry dies down.
 
In my new Wingman Dating App column I have some key love laws to help with your new relationship.
 
 
Happy dating, Pam x
 


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