Dr Pam Spurr

Thanks for checking out my site - the entire point is free self-help with agony aunt-style advice on lots of topics. That said, no article (in full or in part) may be reprinted or used without my premission.

I've thrown myself back into my painting that I stopped for many years raising my children and being a working mother too. I hope you enjoy the new gallery and shop!

Here's a bit about my self-help/psychology work and also media work...

RADIO AND PODCAST ALERT! In 2019 I presented a series of shows for Love Sport Radio. I got up close and VERY personal with BRILLIANT guests talking honestly about life, love, sex and more. The linked-podcast will be available from all good podcast places. I hope yoi enjoyed the heart-felt stories, experiences and loads of advice on manyn life issues.

I work as a self help expert, agony aunt and solutions coach, commentator and a writer on sex, relationships and human behaviour. I'm also a Chartered Academic, Research and Teaching Psychologist with the BPS.

I hope you'll find the articles & tips useful. I've sorted them into the main areas of: sex, love & relationships, parenting, life coaching, and others.

Please get in touch at 'e-mail me' on my homepage - I'd love to answer every e-mail but as I run my site without assistance - and work full-time - sadly I can't.

In my work as a self-help expert I've written 15 self-help books, my latest are Sex Academy, How to be a Happy Human, The Emotional Eater's Diet andThe Laws Of Sisterhood. I'm also...

...I'm an occasional broadcaster doing a bit of radio & TV. I've presented the Saturday night show at Talk Radio from October 2016 to January 2018. I frequently do interviews for the Talk Radio family of presenters but it's nice having my weekends back!

For over eight years I've had an online self-help column offering sex and love tips for the Sun newspaper - please do visit the Sun online - a new column goes live regularly, full of top tips on sex and love.

Recently I did a fun project as a regular celebrity news/relationships commentator on a small satellite show and I pop up on different TV programmes as an agony aunt and social commentator like This Morning, BBC Breakfast, Loose Women, Sky News, and the spin off Big Brother programmes.

Since 1997 I've presented radio programmes and was over-the-moon to win a Sony radio award when I was at Heart FM London where I presented shows for five years. I then presented for 4 1/2 years on LBC before going freelance. Since then I've presented and 'guested' on a huge number of BBC regional stations inclduing BBC London, Western regions and Surrey and Sussex.

For two years I had a weekly agony slot on Tom Dunne's show on Dublin Newstalk radio as well as a weekly dream analysis slot on George Lamb's previous BBC 6 Music shows.

I've previously worked as a psychologist getting my doctorate in psychology from a London teaching hospital where I researched how to help parents whose children had emotional and/or behavioural problems. I've done a number of other courses in psychology - my BSc Hons in psychology from a London university, MPhil in psychology from the London teaching hospital I received my PhD from + ad hoc counselling-type and self-improvement/life-coaching courses. 

I have worked with a number of charities and was a patron of Kids in the Middle that advises parents who are breaking up on how to help their children during this difficult time, until funding was lost for our charity.

It was fun writing a weekly 'Love Doc'/agony aunt page for Miss Independent Woman website - check them out here! And I've also written a new agony column with the Yummy Mummy website.

I also support the fantastic work of Anna Kennedy Online charity that does amazing work with those with autism. As well as supporting Kevin Healey and to his autism bullying campaign as well as being a founding member of Kids in the Middle - a charity that aimed to promote awareness in parents who are breaking up and how this can affect their children. Although sadly fudning was lost for us after four years!

I'm delighted to support Saying Goodbye a charity supporting and providing national services for those who have suffered a miscarriage, still birth or early years loss. 

No two days are the same and I enjoy fresh challenges and always look for new things to do having written self-help columns and articles for many websites and magazines.

I hope you find the site helpful - it's packed with tips and advice - and more to come. Keep checking in for updates!

Keep happy, keep hopeful, Dr Pam x

p.s My 'loves' include: anything made of chocolate (I'm a complete chocoholic) + music, films, good TV drama, great books like anything by John Irving, William Boyd, Robert Harris, and Lionel Shriver + travel including places like Peru, Cuba, Cambodia, Thailand, the Galapagos Islands and India + films of all genres + lots of other stuff like going to galleries, the theatre + action sports like water skiing, skiing, paragliding, hiking and I've been a black belt in Shotokan Karate for years but haven't been able to train for a few years due to a major ski accident - though I stlll ski every year.