Dating tips for MEN - The Secrets Of Her Body Language

Here I'm wearing my ‘Date Doctor’ hat and giving men insider information for dating and relationships success!

1/ The Secrets Of Her Body Language –

With about 93% of communication being through body language you can definitely put some knowledge of body language to good use to suss out what she's thinking.

Most of our body language is unconscious - in other words it gives away what we're thinking before we even realise it. So without even knowing it most of the time she'll be using her body language as a subtle weapon to catch your attention or maybe to put you off!

How To Read The Signs and Signals That She Fancies You

Watch out for the following that says she's immediately interested in you:

Her eyes - she dips her chin slightly and then looks up at you from under her fringe.

She gives you a ‘doubletake’ - looks at you, then looks away, and then looks straight back at you.

Her fingertips – they lightly touch her neckline.

They move up and down straw in her cocktail.

They touch her lips occasionally.

They lightly touch or a circle her drink’s glass.

Her hair - she flicks it back lightly with her fingertips.

She occasionally shakes her head slightly so it moves.

Her lips - they part lightly while she is listening to you.

She gently licks the corner of her mouth, or her top or bottom lip.

Her posture - it slips into an ‘S’ shape where one hip pokes out and one shoulder dips.

She pushes her chest out towards you a little.

She crosses her legs towards you.

Her feet don't face away from you.

Later In The Date The Signs That Say That She's Interested In You

She bridges the gap between you by touching your forearm when she speaks to you.

She touches her fingertips to your thigh.

She moves her back so that it screens out other people from your view.

She needed inward points you with her fingertips on her chin.

She opens her body language by placing both her palms down on the table top.

Later In The Date The Signs That Say That She's NOT Interested In You

She leans back in her chair away from you.

She turns her legs away from you.

She starts crossing her arms over her chest.

She starts to look away from you when you speak as if she's mentally looking for an exit.

She stops flirtatious signs with her fingertips and her.

The Signals You Should Avoid Giving Off

Let's think about your body language for a minute. Just as she can give off flirtatious signals that tell you she's interested you can too. Equally you can give signals that might put her off and ruin your chances with her. Here are some definite No-Nos when it comes to body-language signals -

¨      Don't stare at her in a prolonged way as it’s disconcerting - not sexy - and she'll lose interest.

¨      Avoid fidgeting and nervous, jerky movements that give her the message that you lack confidence. At another level what does this tell her? That if you lack basic confidence you might also like sexual confidence.

¨      Beware of excessively loud and aggressive behaviour particularly if you and she are out with your friends. This kind of showing off with big gestures is rarely attractive.

¨      Make sure you don't close down your body-language due to nerves. By ‘closing down’ I mean crossing your legs tightly, crossing your arms over your chest, and slouching. Not at all attractive!

¨      Don't go to the other extreme by using over-confident, arrogant body-language that includes too much preening, and/or overly straight posture - this gives off a ‘nose-in-the-air’ type attitude can be quite threatening particularly if she lacks confidence.


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