Dr Pam Spurr

Couples - put your relationship through an MOT!

Couples - put your relationship through an MOT!

Couples definitely need to MOT their love every so often. The couples that do so are the most successful. They show they’re deeply committed to the longevity of their relationship by taking time to check things are going well for both of them. They care enough to want to freshen things up generally and re-ignite some sexual passion.

Summer is a great time to do your MOT (although anytime you both can spend the time on your relationship is a good time!). There are loads of places you get out to for peace, quiet, romance and al fresco lovemaking. People feel good any way with the extra hours of vitamin-rich sunshine and the extra time off work with bank holidays.

A good starting point is to either have a weekend away or to at least shut off the phones and fax and stay at home alone telling friends and family you’re away so you’re not disturbed. Going away ensures couples feel and behave differently enjoying the freedom a hotel room gives them to have loads of raunchy sex and not worry about the bed linens – you’re not washing them!  Getting away from it all means you can pretend anything. A couple shouldn’t need an excuse, but being in a hotel is the perfect one for trying new sexual techniques and positions.

Every couple has it’s own unique way of relating and by doing an MOT you can talk through the things that have been working – where you’ve been having fun and the things that come between you. When you MOT yourselves sometimes you need to use strategies like choosing the time wisely to discuss things, selecting neutral territory if you don’t live together, always begin with the positives things you feel about your romance, and how you can ‘enhance’ these. Think about the times when you’ve successfully worked out past problems and use these again and always look for compromise.