Dr Pam Spurr

Top speed dating tips!

Top speed dating tips!

1/ Believe you’re the best by pretend inside you’re just like your favourite female icon. Study her body language – what ‘X’ factor does she have that makes her so watchable. Then visualise yourself with her ‘X’ factor. This visualisation will help you avoid shy and awkward body language. Pull your shoulders back and look your speed dates in the eye.

2/ Before the speed dating event think about the one thing you do when you’re nervous, e.g., do you twiddle with your hair or pick at your cuticles? Then keep your hands clasped in your lap or hold your scorecard for the event. Things like ‘hair twiddling’ are distracting unless done sexily!

3/ You’ve got three minutes to impress so do your homework. Plan three questions to ask them. Make them questions that have meaning to you. Ask things that will give you info about the real man, e.g., rather than asking what their work involves, ask them what they like about their work – see what enthuses them. Keeping the spotlight on him will help you relax, too.

4/ Always dress for success – where what makes you feel great - not the latest fashion just because it’s in. Remember you can wear a sexy top or a sexy skirt but not both or it’ll look like you just want one thing. 

5/ If you fancy him bring on the flirting! You’ll seem more attractive if you send clear signals! So use flirting ploys like running your finger up and down your glass, loads of smiles and laughing at his jokes even if they’re not that funny. If you fancy him the way to his heart is by creating this ‘comfort zone’ – where you make him feel good - in your presence even if only for three minutes!