Dr Pam Spurr

Try these love challenges (4)

Love Challenges (4)!

These will help keep your outlook flexible and continuing to move you out of your comfort zone. I say the long haul because Mr Right may be just around the corner and you’re ready to meet him but thins don’t stop there. Your own life continues. Your joint life with him is dynamic. And there maybe a number of Mr Rights along the way. Life and love are unpredictable and you might have a fabulous relationship for a time and then something changes.

Love Fitness Challenge A:

Have fun finding love and share this good spirit! Send out an invitation to friends, appropriate family members, and colleagues to a "bring an ex or single" party. Everyone is welcome but the proviso is they have to bring an ex that they still like (and so is a likeable person) but obviously they aren’t still part in love with or they bring a fabulous single friend. To keep the ratio of sensational singles equal, invite equal numbers of men and women. This could become a regular event in your diary. One client of mine does it every three months.

Why do this love challenge? Because you give out the message that you're on the lookout and you want help others find love too. It generates a fun event that's not as pressured as a commercially organised event. Just because someone's ex didn't work out with them doesn't mean they're not Mr or Mrs Right for someone else.

Love Fitness Challenge B:

Put together your "beautiful me that's going to find love" outfit ready for a first date. Every woman should have one outfit - that's geared to their social life and not work - that they feel fabulous in. Enjoy a day out on your own or with a girlfriend selecting the perfect outfit - a little flirty but not over-the-top. Something you feel comfortable and confident in and won't be pulling at the waistband or yanking down the hem of the skirt because it doesn't fit properly. Now that you’re used to observing others and understand yourself, think about the "message" this outfit will give - hopefully that you're a confident, stylish woman.

Why do this love challenge? Because now that you're living dynamically and enjoying spontaneous moments you're likely to bump into an attractive man at some random point when you least expect it - the office lift, the frozen-food section, your new evening class, etc. You won't be scurrying around pulling together an outfit when one of you suggests meeting up for a drink the next night. And you'll love wearing this outfit anyway!

Love Fitness Challenge C:

Time to take yourself away from it all and pursue something that you both enjoy and will help to continue to develop you as a person. Have you always longed to sail? Why not book a sailing week or weekend. If you're on a budget it doesn't have to be abroad. Have you always wanted to let your artistic side shine? There are all sorts of painting and drawing courses available around the country. Practically any artistic, sporting or other interest can be fulfilled by the huge number of such get-away courses and breaks that are available. All of these involve an enjoyable stay for a long weekend (or longer) with intensive study and skills learning as well as good fun in the evenings! Go with a friend or dare to go alone.

Why do this love challenge?

Because opening up opportunities involve every aspect of your life. Instead of taking your usual beach-and-book (and perhaps a bonk!) holiday to Majorca this summer you could do something that puts you in touch with a whole new set of people, is fun, and a challenge. Not only could you meet a potential partner - or even a man just to have some fun dates with - but you'll really get something out of it.