Dr Pam Spurr

A QUICKIE FOR YOU: My top five tips for a long relationship

A QUICKIE FOR YOU: My top five tips for a long and fruitful marriage include:

1/ There's two of you in it and both of you are responsible for its success. One of you can't be the caretaker and the other allow them to do everything.

2/ Don't forget the fun! It's easy to get bogged down in problems at work, establishing a home, when children arrive, etc, so it's crucial that you keep laughing together.

3/ Finances can come between couples and are often cited in divorce. Keep on top of your budget and always plan together how to spend any spare cash and what to save for, etc.

4/ Another big problem area can be your families interfering in your life. Present a united front to the outside world so nobody can come between you.

5/ Don't forget the sizzle in your sex life! If one of you starts feeling neglected then bad feeling can spread from the bedroom into all areas of your life. It only takes the occasional effort to try something new and make your partner feel special to keep things fresh.