Single and happy or unhappy about it? When you put on a façade it can be damaging...
Discussing singledom with Mike Parr on BBC radio Tees at 9:45 AM - in my work I hear from so many singles and many of them cover-up how deeply unhappy they are and how much they would like to meet someone special.
Of course there are very many happy singles out there but it's sad when a single feels they'll be judged as "sad" if they admit to wanting to settle down.
Enjoyed chatting about the Big Brother housemates’ behaviour last night on Bit on the Side but one thing that's come out of this series is how many of the HMs haven't been true to themselves.
It's one thing to put on a façade for certain events or in work situations but to consistently lack authenticity is damaging to your self-esteem. Because why else are you feeling you have to be fake? Deep down inside you must feel that's the only way you'll be lovable.
TODAY’S TIP: When people tell me in my role of life coach or agony aunt that they find it hard to drop their front I always say to start a practical level. For instance, the next time someone asks you your opinion on something then give your genuine opinion - don't say what you think they'll agree with!
The more you practise getting your opinions and your point of view the more you find that others to reject you out of hand.
Be yourself but be your best possible self is my motto.
Take care of yourself, Pamx