Is there a third person in your relationship, loneliness is never a reason to go back to an Ex..
So you've fallen for someone but there's a hitch -there's a third person in the relationship who’s getting in the way - and it's their best friend.
It might be time for your new love to downgrade their bf and make room for the both of you. On my weekly iVillage.co.uk blog I've tackled this very common issue where it's up to the person you're seeing to sort out their bf being in the way all the time.
In today's Star newspaper I commented on why Cheryl shouldn't go back to Ashley - she definitely shouldn't go back to him if she's feeling lonely - never a good reason, it'll only fall apart again.
And she definitely shouldn't go back if she's feeling insecure after getting the push from American X Factor... another bad reason to go back to someone for a sense of security.
TODAY’S THOUGHT: you need to build your own sense of security and should never expect to get it from someone else. When you have your own feelings of security you can give - and get - so much more from a relationship.
Of course you and your partner should help each other become the best you can be - and treat each other with love and kindness and that builds security in your relationship - but you should make yourself feel good in the first place!
Lovely chatting to Sue Marchant last night on BBC radio eastern regions - we were talking about the way we behave in relationships and how some people resist love - and why they do so.
I can feel some summer sales shopping coming on after meetings in town today - will fill you in if I find any good bargains. Pam X