Was your weekend full of woe?
It's always the case on Monday morning when I check my e-mails that so many people have had a woeful weekend... now in some of these cases there are things beyond a person's control that happened - they've got burgled, had a car accident, etc., had a family member fall ill, and they're upset.
In some of the other cases they're stuck in negative patterns of behaviour - that lead to a sort of "poor, poor me" feeling and have sometimes stopped trying to change things.
When bad things happen to you the best you can do is react to them by sorting them out with whatever action you need to. Yes it's stressful, yes it's a pain in the 'proverbial', but taking an attitude that you will get through it - and one day it'll be a distant memory and even a funny story to tell - works far better than a woeful one.
But how about when your woeful weekend is because you're allowing your partner to be neglectful [and that hurts], or your friends take advantage of you, or you have the same fallings out with your family? Well then, it's time to take charge.
TODAY’S TIP: take one thing you want to change most and try this: examine it like you're examining something you are can invest in, e.g., a kitchen appliance or something.
Yes, that's right examine it as if it was something you were going to purchase that required quite a bit of investment - sounds odd I know!
So you examine this thing you want to change and you consider its best qualities and you look at its drawbacks - as you would if it was a new, e.g., refrigerator you're researching before you buy.
Taking a step back and taking the 'emotion' out of trying to change something is incredibly helpful. Treating it like it's an 'investment' [an emotional investment] can sometimes clarify what aspect of it really needs changing - and what aspect is fine and doesn't need overanalyzing.
Good luck with preparing for next weekend so it isn't a woeful one!
Happy Monday, Pamx