What annoys you most about your partner?
Even the most loved-up couples get annoyed with each other. You can't always find the other easy. You can't see everything they do as wonderful... there are going to be niggles and irritations.
I'm discussing this on my ‘Love Doc’ slot with the gorgeous duo Angela and Spence on the Heart Northwest and Wales breakfast show just after 8 AM this morning.
I find some of ‘Her’ most common moans include - he embarrasses me by telling bad jokes or using bad manners...
he doesn't do enough around the house...
and the classic - he has too much Xbox play and not enough foreplay!
And on ‘His’ part, men's most common moans include - she tells her friends too much of our personal stuff...
and she always criticises herself [like her weight and the way she looks]...
and she also criticises me!
TODAY’S TIP: There are a few key points each partner should consider before complaining –
1/ is it really that bad? Do their good points make up for this annoying thing?
2/ be honest - are you using this complaint as a ‘power-play’ because you're annoyed about a bigger issue?
3/ and if you’re going to bring it up then always start with a positive - something that's good between you or that your partner does while. Beginning on a pleasant note like saying, e.g., isn't it amazing the way we always make decisions about the children together - I wish we could apply that to our issues over the household chores!
That puts them in the mood to help you sort this issue.
Good luck with it, Pamx