The ugly side of anger and such a tragic loss...
It's Tuesday - doing an agony slot on Dublin News talk radio after 11 AM - always lively and such an array of dilemmas to be tackled. One I'm tackling today is from a woman who loves her boyfriend of one year very much. But… isn't there always a "but"… when he gets angry he has tantrums.
Tantrums in a grown man are ugly at the very least and frightening at the worst. I have loads of tips to give her. Don't forget you have a dilemma you can e-mail or text Dublin News talk - find them on the net.
Absolutely tragic news about Lily Allen miscarrying her baby at six months. As a mum I can't imagine what she's going through. All of her recent interviews have focused on her joy at finding true love with builder boyfriend, Sam, and looking forward to the arrival of their first child.
TODAY’S THOUGHT: if you've had a friend or family member go through miscarriage please think about the fact that the worst thing you could say to her (and to him) are things like: not to worry because she'll have another chance to have a baby or that she'll get over it soon - anything tactless like that.
Don't forget she's thinking about the death of her real baby - the baby she's lost, the little life that had been growing inside her. And along with the disappearance of that little life, all of her hopes and dreams she harboured for him or her disappear too.
Plus all the love she already had heaped up in her unborn baby - with the expectations of what he or she would be like in their personality - and her plans to be a wonderful mum to her baby… all of these terribly important and powerful feelings dashed.
If this has happened to your friend or family member please give them time, patience, comfort and space - and lots of love and support - plus respect the fact that this was a real child that she and he loved and lost.
I hope and wish that you are okay in your life.
Love, Pam X