As Zoe Ball and Norman Cook break up again, some thoughts...
In today's I've commented on Zoe and Norman's breakup. Evidently it's amicable which is wonderful for the children's sake. But it flags up the issues other couples might face if one or other – or both – have struggled with alcohol or substance issues.
Here's the story and comment in the Mirror.
If you're struggling with such issues:
*It's crucial to come clean to yourself, and also loved ones, that you’re on a downward spiral and are trying to rectify this.
*Live strictly one-day-at-a-time - making the best of each day, managing yuor issue/s for that dway only - so you're not daunted by what could seem an impossible challenge to change your life 'forever'.
*Become aware of what ‘triggers’ send you reaching for the bottle/substances. Triggers range from feeling bad about yourself because of the way, e.g., a partner or boss treats you, to becoming overstressed, or many other potential triggers.
*See your GP about potential depression, anxiety, and if counselling is offered.
*Your behaviour’s likely to go hand-in-hand with obsessive and other addictive behaviours so keep a diary of your behaviours that potentially damage you. This’ll give a clearer picture of what your destructive behaviour.
*Get support from a relevant 12 step programme.
*Enlist a ‘crisis buddy’ - someone trustworthy - that you can call when you feel you’re slipping.
Take care of yourself, Pam x