A mum's worries, and are you a 'clone'?
Really looking forward to my Tuesday morning agony slot on Dublin Newstalk radio after 10 AM - amongst other dilemmas the producer's told me that one mother's got in touch about her three grown sons without a girlfriend, fiancé, or wife between them. Should she be worried? We'll be discussing this.
And then there’s the wife worried about her husband getting buffed-up in the gym recently – she’s asking: who he's getting buffed up for?
Seeing Gavin Henson pictured out with Michelle Mone looking as if they're trying to hide the fact they may be an 'item' makes me ask a question: When is too soon, too soon? Beware the rebound relationship! Talk about whirlwind dating – his split from Charlotte Church was nano-seconds ago. I should write something about the rebound relationships one day soon - I meet tons of people who have been hurt by them.
More celebrities have got me thinking: beware the man who chooses clones!
Seeing John Cleese pictured with his younger blonde girlfriend and reading of the breakup between Kelly Brook and Danny Cipriani made me think of men who go for 'clones' when they break up with someone.
You see, John Cleese has had a series of tall, slim, blonde wives and girlfriends (often American), and since their recent breakup, Danny has been seen with two brunettes who are spitting images of Kelly. Of course Rod Stewart was the 'King of clones' with his string of tall, athletic blonde girlfriends.
This might be seen as harmless (and fine for the men) involved but in reality it's very difficult for the women (and vice versa when it's a woman who always goes out with the same type of man). Not only do you ultimately feel that you are some sort of 'cookie cutter' girlfriend physically, but emotionally it can eat away at you as you begin to believe that your partner wants you to behave in a certain way also.
TODAY’S THOUGHT: Take someone I'll call ‘Joanne’, 38, who realised she was ‘Richard's’ third petite brunette once she got to know his social circle. Many remarked (rather tactlessly) how much she was physically like 'Debs and Rebecca before her'. One joked whether she'd also be as 'fiery' as they were.
Joanne started to feel that Richard simply went for one type and sought out women of a particular physical and personality type rather than being drawn to her for her unique qualities. This began to eat away at her and their relationship.
So if you fear you're one in a long line of your partner's "clones" - make sure they don't treat you like their exes - instead they should treat you as an individual you are!
Take care, Pam X