How to upset your girlfriend...
Omg - the gloom outside my office window - have turned on my lightbox and recommend you do the same if you have one!
Today I've blogged on iVillage.co.uk about the perennial problem - when your partner (in this case her boyfriend) has friends of the opposite sex. And the female friend her boyfriend has is a very flirty woman and quite understandably she’s an easy. One angle to this - that many people don't think about and I didn't have room in my blog to mention - is if you really want to upset your girlfriend (or undermine her) then get a female friend! Because sometimes this is about exerting your power and control in a relationship.
But sticking to the age-old question - can you have friends of the opposite sex? And if you're gay can you have friends of the same sex without your partner being threatened?
I trust my hubster completely but I'm glad he's not the type of man who has female friends. On the other hand I have lots of male friends - but most of them are gay so the hubster can breathe a sigh of relief.
TODAY’S THOUGHT: it's a complicated thing and if you have friends that ‘threaten’ your partner in this way, you really need to think about who comes first in your priorities - partner or friend - balanced against whether or not your partner’s being reasonable about it or unreasonable. Because there are some people who’ll be unreasonable about such friendships and usually they struggle with jealousy in all of their relationships.
Get some quotes today to Superdrug's in-house magazine about improving the quality of your sex life - and I was asked some pretty interesting questions. But their in-house mag won't be out for a while.
Got to dash and get through some meetings before I meet an old group of girlfriends for a late lunch in Soho.
Also need to prepare for a mini conference tomorrow with the Department of Children, Schools and Families - it should be Interesting as it’s about getting fathers more involved in parenting.
Enjoy your day despite the grey, Pam X