William's and Kate's body language. Are you thinking of breaking up before Xmas?
If you like body language I've checked out the last year of William's and Kate's body language for an MSN UK Her channel article.
Over to your relationship - do you want to breakup with your partner but you worry you shouldn't upset them before Christmas? I don't think ‘mercy love’ is emotionally healthy – in fact it's kind of disrespectful that you assume they’d want you to stay for this reason - mercy!
Earlier I chatted about this on my weekly Love Doc slot onh Angela and Spence's Breakfast show on Heart FM breakfast for the Northwest and Wales.
The exception to this is if you two have a child or children - then you should dig deep and see the relationship through until after Christmas. It's going to be tough enough on your child/children anyway when it happens but at least they can have one last Christmas before the big blow.
If you don't have children - and so breaking up before Christmas is an option - don't forget your partner might be thinking the same way! They may wish to leave the relationship but worry about doing so before Christmas.
Another element to this is how greed motivates some people not to breakup until the new year - this sad thinking behind this is day might be a good Christmas present from the partner they want to dump. Sorry, but in my books this is never the reason to stay together.
TODAY’S TIP: I don't think people [without children] should use something like Christmas as a reason not to breakup with someone they really want breakup with. It's different if you're simply wondering if your relationship is coming to an end - in that case going full throttle into Christmas and trying to see if time together helps repair things may well be a good idea.
Ultimately if you use something like Christmas as a reason for staying in unhappy relationship, then you may well end up finding all sorts of excuses not to finish it - and no one is happy, you become increasingly bitter, but you always find a reason like birthdays, anniversaries, Valentine’s, etc., to stay together.
Obviously as with any breakup it should be done with tact and caring but please don't ever look at your partner as someone so pathetic that you have to pretend to relish spending Christmas together - if they knew that they'd feel third rate.
All the best with your tough decision, these things are never easy unless the relationship has got to the absolutely dire phase and then it can be quite easy to walk away. Take care, Pamx