The sexual numbers game...
Carrying on from mentioning midlife crises yesterday, in today's Daily Express newspaper I've commented on midlife crises - both men's and women's. And because I hear from so many people about such crises I might choose one story later in the week from "your e-mail of the week" and give an in-depth answer. If you've got a tale to tell then e-mail me.
Crikey, there are some things you might not want to be honest about - and a new survey out today is about one of those topics - how many previous sexual partners you've had and how honest you are with your present partner.
The "numbers game" can be a super sensitive topic for some partners. It doesn't make them bad people if they'd be upset to hear you'd slept with three dozen people when you were at Uni or worked your way through the marketing department at your company after your divorce.
It's just one of those very thorny topics that you need to be careful about, particularly early in your relationship.
TODAY’S THOUGHT: in fact if you have any doubt how your new partner will react then simply say you're not prepared to discuss your ex-lovers. You don't have to - that's your choice!
They've got to remember that you're the person they love today because of your experiences from your past. So although, as I say, and it doesn't make them any less of a person to want to know (it's only curiosity), at the same time it doesn't make you a bad person to keep it to yourself if you think that's best.
It's a manic Monday - time to get to work, love, Pam X