Does your partner have surprising bedroom habits? And honesty with your children...
Sometimes a person can seem one way when you meet them - maybe shy, kind, funny - but once you two sleep together you discover they have a different bedroom-personality.
Such discoveries can rock new relationships - it can turn a person right off.
I've covered this in my Love Clinic on iVillage UK today as one woman got in touch about her loving fiancé who goes all "50 shades of grey" in the bedroom.
On another topic in today's Sun newspaper I've commented on a story where a father has become the mother figure to his two children through cross-dressing and hormonal treatment. As with any potentially difficult, traumatic or sensitive family situation the key thing with Carla's story is her honesty with her two children - it made their adjustment to the new situation much easier. A lesson for parents that hiding things that will inevitably affect your children [anything from divorce to job loss and other such issues] is far more damaging than giving them the information they are bound to need.
TODAY’S TIP: Back to my Love Clinic - in my reply I made it clear that if you're sleeping with someone [and definitely definitely if you're engaged to them] you should be able to discuss these things with them.
From my point of view if someone does something that shocks you in the bedroom I actually find it slightly shocking you can't stop it and discuss it.
Don't forget it's your relationship too - and it's also your sex life and body - check out the advice in my article if you're going through this.
Happy Tuesday, Pamx