To tell or not to tell when suspicious about an affair....
Calling all cat owners - was horrified to read about this mystery disease that has turned some family pets into "living robots".
Evidently it tends to strike older cats but be vigilant and if you latest any stiffening in your cats limbs get them to the vet!
As you know I only answer one e-mail of the week on Thursdays but one of the e-mails that grabbed my attention asked about whether the e-mailer should tell her friend that her friend's husband was having an affair.
This is a biggie!
TODAY’S TIP: My view is this: the person being cheated on practically always knows and doesn't need telling.
Bearing that in mind if you’re close friends then do tell them of your suspicions. But be very sure beforehand that you have real evidence.
If you don't, they may turn their fury on you for rocking the boat. Remember the old saying "don't shoot the messenger"... well it happens a lot in these cases - and you're the messenger.
If you don't know them very well then don't say anything. As I said, they probably already know and they won't appreciate someone on the fringes of their social circle knowing too.
If it all blows up and offer your support. If they ask you down the line whether or not you knew be honest that you had suspicions but didn't want to cause problems.
Always put yourself in the person's shoes and think how you'd feel and what you would want to know - and what you wouldn't want to hear - and the people you wouldn't want telling you!
Have a family birthday over the weekend and have wracked my brains for some surprises...er, it can't be cookery surprises since I'm not the best cook in the world... Far from it! Although I am making a chocolate devil's food cake recipe.
What with family friends coming for dinner tonight too it's going to stretch my meager cooking abilities!
Have a lovely weekend, Pamx