Lots to share with you....
Lots to share with you today but had a late night - and running late, grrrrr, hate running late - so after my meetings will put some thoughts up and post a "your e-mail of the week" - again, thanks so much for your e-mails, keep them company and maybe yours will be chosen. Wish I could and see them all! Pamx
OK, had the meeting and at my desk. Did you see the report in today's papers about how "falling in love will cost you two friends" - this is quite a phenomenon influencing women's friendships. We women get so upset when a friend falls in love - and has no time for us - but we're prone to doing it ourselves!
The solution is a bit of honesty when you let your friends know that you value them but want to devote time to your new relationship. It's part of our biology to put a new relationship first - new love can be overwhelming and we feel an incredibly strong drive to try and fulfil its potential. But that doesn't mean we have to treat friends badly. One person I know and I'll call Chloe, complained to me recently that she'd felt so let down by her friends who didn't understand how much her new relationship meant to her. I had to challenge her on whether she'd discussed this with them or just assumed they should excuse her for not showing up for things, putting him first, etc., typical ‘new-love behaviours’.
Transpires she hadn't chatted to them about it and had made the assumption that they'd ‘excuse’ her from the things they usually did.
TODAY’S THOUGHT: This is a constant theme in the friendships - how a man can come between them. But it doesn't have to be like that if you really value your friends then be honest with them. If they're good-enough friends then they'll understand that finding love is important to you.
Okay, thinking of the Pope's visit, I don't want to offend any Catholics (one of my very best friends is Catholic and a number of acquaintances are)- I'm a complete believer that you should believe what you want to as long as you A/ don't try and force it on other people. And B/ that you don't believe you're a better person because of your beliefs.
But personally I could never respect a man who had dragged his feet over little children being abused. How awful is that? And then there's their position on AIDS, contraception and gay and women's rights. How can good come from such beliefs? I'm not going into a diatribe but I think you get my drift.
So sorry to miss the Oh Inverted World club-night in north London tonight… they're a trendy DJ collective who always have great guests - singer/songwriter's and bands. Last night out and about with friends was enough for me till the weekend!
I'm just going to post a new "your e-mail of the week" - check it out, it's from Katherine who's worried about her fantasy life being a bit too hot and perhaps troublesome.
Enjoy your day, Pam X