Not good in the bedroom, and a lack of curves can be a good thing...
On my weekly iVillage.co.uk blog today I've tackled a woman's dilemma about her feeling she can't please her boyfriend in bed. So many women (and often men) feel that when something isn't quite right in the bedroom it's their "fault". If something isn't working then try something else. Don't allow anxiety to hamper your bedroom-experimentation!
A couple of things in today's papers caught my eye including:
Reading the report about men and where they look - your body or your face. This report had my late-mother's words of wisdom came ringing back to me. Evidently if he's serious about you he spends more time looking at your face.
In my adolescence I fretted terribly about my lack of curves. My mother used to say (emphatically), "do you want a man who is interested in you for your bustline? Or one who is interested in all of you?"
It used to drive me nuts when she said that, but it's so true. The fact this research shows that a man who is more interested in your face bodes well for his seriousness, should hopefully give some relief to the huge numbers of women who aren't happy with their bodies. If he likes you it won't matter!
Also seeing Hugh Grant pictured with another beautiful woman makes me want to say that men like Hugh should come with a health warning. Such men can never settle down because no one's ever quite good enough.
They often have commitment issues and take things to a fairly committed level before backing off. And they back off because they always find fault with you - no matter how wonderful you are. They leave a trail of heartache in their path.
TODAY’S THOUGHT: I've known so many women that have had encounters with such men and it almost always ends up a demoralising experience or hurting their self-esteem. If he makes you feel very special when together, but then you don't hear from him for days, he may well be one of these men.
Falling in love isn't supposed to hurt like that but these men often leave a woman feeling such heartache. Just be aware of him if he's making you feel this way and you can't quite put your finger on why you haven't felt very good since being with him.
Having lunch with a colleague in Covent Garden today - looking forward to a lovely, fun catch-up.
Enjoy your Wednesday, Pam X