Kick him into touch and your low self-esteem
Yesterday afternoon I spoke to the wonderful Mark Carter, drivetime presenter on BBC Surrey radio show. He wanted to discuss the news that Cheryl Cole’s going to divorce Ashley. Not quick enough in my view! Mark’s not only a fantastic radio presenter but he's also one of the nicest people I know (we have a laugh when we occasionally get together for lunch) so it's always a pleasure to be a guest on his show.
My feeling is that betrayal is traumatic and not only is someone like Cheryl feeling totally betrayed and, quite frankly gutted, but she's also been humiliated in front of the whole country. The reason why she'll feel humiliated? Unfortunately the person who's been cheated on, always asks, "wasn't I enough? What's wrong with me that they had to go elsewhere?" When in this case, she should really be asking, "why is Ashley's character so flawed?"
Many people feel more of a balance - that it's something to do with them and obviously to do with their partner when they've been cheated on. But many others feel as if they're simply not 'good enough' to hang on to someone.
TODAY’S THOUGHT: And that belief that you're ‘not good enough’ when something bad has happened to you, can go right across all sorts of situations - not just when you've been cheated on. If you tend to react like this - believing that you're responsible for all sorts of things when in reality someone else may well be, or at least someone else may share the responsibility with you, then you definitely need to build your self-esteem. Because this is one great sign that your self-esteem isn't high enough.
If you check in my "powerful living" section there are lots of articles on building your confidence and self esteem.
Take a peek at my blog on iVillage.co.uk today for a bizarre situation - two single women who want to share the same men because neither want a relationship and they think it'd be easier to ‘scout’ for one man at a time to share!
I'm very annoyed because for the second day running I'm going to have to cancel lunch with a girlfriend because of work commitments. Very, very ticked off! Defo, though, I'll get some gossip in on the phone in my very short lunch break.
Take care, Pam X p.s. give me Michael Hutchence and INXS anytime over Professor Green's remix.