Dr Pam Spurr

Single? Beware of ‘Throning’!

My latest column for Wingman Dating App...

Are you about to be ‘throned’ by a single you've met? Or are you guilty of ‘throning’ singles you meet?

Throning is a dating trend that has finally been named. It's where a single gets strategic when looking for a partner. They actively seek to date someone who has higher popularity, social status, or influence, in order to boost their own status.

Singles who engage in this take a transactional approach to dating. This so-called clout-chasing is something to be aware of. That shiny new single may simply be after your status and clout. This can go both ways with men and women guilty of ‘throning’.

Five signs to spot it:

* They seem more interested in anything high status about you compared to their interest in just getting to know the real you.

* From the off they want to be involved in activities you do that give you your status.

* When mentioning or discussing other people, they seem to completely focus on those individuals’ power and influence.

* They get really disappointed if you're going to a high-status event - maybe because you've been solely invited - and they can't come along.

* They want selfies with you even from your first meeting when normally singles might wait to get that snap until they know you better.

These and other signs suggest that they are throning you and they want to be part of your Kingdom or Queendom. Obviously, it's up to you if you're taken with them, whether you have more dates with them. You might see qualities in them that you find attractive, quite apart from their transactional nature.

Good luck and happy dating, Pam x

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