Have you or someone you know been asked to sign a prenup?
Looking forward to chatting about child behaviour problems on BBC Newcastle radio on the drive timeshare with Anne and Jon at 415. I was a fairly strict parent myself but I do know there isn't one-size-fits-all parenting and discipline. It should be a lively chat!
Over to prenups...I have very strong views about prenups - quite simply if you want one signed why bother getting married? Why not just date or live together? The whole point of entering into marriage is the hope and trust that it is for good.
Of course all marriages don't last [my first one didn't] but to crush that special sense that this is going to be the relationship that you try hardest at, by turning it into a pragmatic, material-wealth driven affair just goes against the grain.
Perhaps there are exceptions - like two people who meet and you both have quite separate businesses and they don't want a mixing of these businesses. Or perhaps the couple have only known each other briefly and she accidentally falls pregnant as one or both strongly believe in marriage if there are children involved. In this whirlwind type of relationship there may be cause for a prenup as you haven't built up trust between you.
Certainly a fair few lawyers out there would always recommend them but I come from a different perspective.
TODAY’S TIP: if you're with someone who asks you to sign a prenup you need to think very carefully why they're doing so. And if you have any worries about their motivations take legal advice... sadly if it comes to that maybe you need to date them longer before deciding whether or not you want to marry them.
In days gone by marriage was often about pragmatic issues like bringing wealth, skills, power, etc., together. But this is the here and now and it seems if you're all about pragmatism then why not be pragmatic and live apart, keep your money separate, and just enjoy weekends together.
All best to you, Pamx