My comment in the Sun newspaper when Cheryl and JB got married...
Whirlwind Marriages
In nature whirlwinds burn themselves out and so do many whirlwind relationships. Couples plunge into them fired-up on sex hormones. This intoxicating sexual chemistry clouds their judgement and they don’t know each other warts-and-all before tying the knot.
Instead, they only think about how wonderful they feel together and with sceptical friends/family they might feel pressure to prove their love with marriage.
This doesn’t give time to lay foundations for the future. Because in future all couples face hurdles - job stress, family problems, ill-health, etc. When you expect everything to feel perfect it’s a shock to your little bubble when it doesn’t.
Couples like Cheryl and Jean-Bernard might also be fooled into thinking that as successful career people they’ll make equally successful personal choices. Not necessarily the case.
Also many feel it must be love because it feels good being utterly desired. It’s a wake-up call as the sexual chemistry diminishes and they risk thinking what on earth have we done?
Plus many aren’t prepared for thinking about the other’s needs - it’s no longer about ‘me’ but about ‘we’. Something that wasn’t considered when things were red hot.
I wish Cheryl and Jean-Bernard and other whirlwind-couples good luck but urge them to face future problems honestly. Raise issues when they develop, don’t sweep them under the carpet because of fears it’ll spoil what you have. Start communicating today over and above the ‘communication’ you share between the sheets.
Published in the Sun newspaper when Cheryl and JB got married