Banning sex, sweet talked into bed, learn to enjoy alone time...
A survey out today shows that a third of arguing couples ban bedroom action to get back at each other. Sex is so often such a fragile and delicate part of a relationship anyway that playing around with it in this way is never a good idea.
Of course straight after an argument you might not feel like make up sex - but you shouldn't then go banning it for a random number of days. Sadly if this happens too often you might just find your partner goes elsewhere - not that cheating is justified but it does happen.
Another survey out today shows that 25% of men will lie to get a date into bed - crikey, I'm surprised it's not a higher percentage! But this reflects the e-mail I received and posted last week (e-mail me by clicking on the gold star shaped thing) from the man who doesn't want sex straight away - he wants to find love without having lots of shallow sex beforehand.
A word of warning to women - if you want more than sex make sure you can trust him when he's sweet talking you towards the bedroom!
Last night was the perfect "wifey at home alone" night as the hubby had gone out with old Uni friends for a curry and beer night they do occasionally. So what did I get up to? A face mask and doing my nails of course! Accompanied by a slew of Come Dine with Me I had on the Sky planner, EastEnders (a lame episode including the aftermath of a ridiculously bad disaster scene at the Argee Bargee) plenty of chocolate and my cats for company... sheer bliss!
TODAY’S THOUGHT: doesn't everyone need some ‘alone time’ sometimes? Chilling, doing what you want to do, speaking to no one!
Most people I know treasure an afternoon or evening to themselves because we're all under so much pressure. But if you’re scared of being on your own it's crucial to your relationships that you learn how to be. Start with short bursts of time so you build your confidence and become less needy.
You actually strengthen your relationships when you have some independence of spirit rather than always relying on someone else to entertain, nurture and love you...yes, it's amazing to share that with a partner but you should be able to cope with some time on your own.
It's gorgeous out - perfect bbq weather, have a fab Friday, Pam X