Have you misjudged someone?
I had an interesting chat with a friend yesterday about a work colleague they'd previously misjudged. When this person started work where my friend worked they'd behaved as if they were aloof and disinterested...never good combination to stimulate good working relations.
So my friend decided to 'cold shoulder' this new colleague in return. Not exactly a 'mature' choice but in a busy work environment, where you don't have a lot of time, it's easy to think you have better things to do then keep trying with someone who's unresponsive.
I ended up tweeting about it yesterday - but to cut a long story short it turned out this new colleague was very shy - and simply came across as aloof. As they came out of their shell over the months they became much friendlier.
This is the problem shy people - they give off such negative body language that people assume they're simply not interested. Or worse, it can come across as positively disliking someone.
TODAY’S TIP: it's easy to make a snap judgment but if you come across someone new who seems disinterested give them a second and third chance while you work it out. It's always worth it!
And if you happen to be that shy person going into a new job start practising now how to be more open with your body language and approach to people. It can be tough overcoming shyness that you can - and I just read that Richard Branson overcame his shyness. Who would've thought he'd suffered??
Happy Wednesday, Pamx