Feeling neglected plus cruel comments...
On my weekly iVillage.co.uk blog today I'm going to tackle a woman's dilemma - she feels very unloved and they haven't had much sex since their child arrived - all in all she's downhearted. Take a look at my advice if that's your situation.
Let Gamu stay! if you're an X Factor fan you'll know what I mean.
Now, on a very serious note, what WAS Virginia Ironside thinking when she unleashed her comments Sunday morning on a TV programme? If you haven't seen anything of the furore she caused, well I could hardly believe what I read - and I've always had the greatest respect for her as an agony aunt.
In brief she remarked how a "good mother" might take a pillow and smother a chronically, seriously ill and/or disabled child. Such remarks are hurtful, harmful, thoughtless and downright dangerous.
I have to question what she was thinking when she made them. Any mother who's had a chronically ill or disabled (or both) child fights a constant battle to protect and nurture her child.
TODAY’S THOUGHT: What such a mother should do, if the care for her child is getting too much, is to ask, ask, and ask again for whatever help is available.
I know only a fraction of what some mothers - who have severely disabled or ill children - go through having had one child who was chronically ill, and in and out of hospital from age 18 months to 18 years.
I know the horror of what it's like when your child almost dies - but thankfully my child's condition meant that sometimes there were two or three good weeks in between the long hospitalisations that sometimes lasted 12 days. And also that a corner was finally turned in her late teens and now medication controls things.
I truly think there’s a potential danger of such remarks being taken literally because they've come from someone like Virginia - who appears to be someone who should be listened to with her for me as an agony aunt - and a desperate mother at her wits end looking after a child with tremendous needs 24/7 doesn't need to have such awful thoughts planted in her head.
On a lighter note had lovely drinks at the Century Club last night with a pal - perfect midweek evening.
I'm lovin’ Labrinth Let The Sun Shine - pop/R&B-tastic - check him out.
Happy Wednesday, Pam X