How much do you pretend to be someone you're not?
Over the weekend I had a fair few e-mails about people feeling they put on a big front to others. I think these type of e-mails come in over the weekend because people are feeling a bit relaxed. But they also have time to think about work and how they pretend to be someone they're not.
This is a real problem for some. Sometimes I think one definition of happiness is how big the gap is between your social front - or facade - and your real self.
If you're feeling that you act a bit fake, say, at work (or maybe even somewhere like around your partner's family) that's quite natural. Remember everyone puts on a bit of a front for things like work.
It's about putting your best foot forward. At home you might complain about little niggles, allow yourself to feel sad about certain things, etc., that you simply wouldn't do at work.
So don't fret unless you're pretending seems who take over are... and that's incredibly stressful.
TODAY’S TIP: if you're struggling with a big void between your real self, attitudes, feelings, etc. and what you show to the world - start revealing a little bit more of yourself every so often.
For instance, at work express your opinion (appropriately) rather than holding back and rather than just agreeing with what everyone else says. This is about participating in normal conversations - where there's a back-and-forth between people's opinions.
That's very different to, e.g., constantly barging in with your opinion on everyone else's projects, business and relationships at work.
I think you know the difference! Be true to yourself but put the best-of-you forward at places like work.
Happy Monday, Pamx