The divorce diet and plagued with guilt...
I don't know about you but I'm plagued with "green guilt". I do everything in my power to lead a greener life and I'm ruthless during the average winter about using minimal heating. The drill in my home is wear layers of clothing in the day and a stack of duvets at night to keep warm. With this weather I've had to give-in to the family's demands and have the heating on more... but I hate doing it!
Have you been through terrible heartache as your relationship breaks down? I bet I could spot you because you can spot a woman going through the 'divorce diet' a million miles away - they've lost weight and have a haunted, fragile appearance.
Seeing the pix of Elin Woods today, looking like this, reveals that she has a classic case of the 'divorce diet' - a phrase I coined a number of years ago when I wrote my book The Breakup Survival Kit (in my book section).
Women are always searching for the ideal diet - well, in this diet all you need is extreme heartbreak and the pounds drop off. Even when you eat during times of enormous stress, your metabolism burns it off through worry. I know, I've been there many years ago. Friends and family despaired of how painfully thin I became despite eating normal quantities of food. But thankfully that changed as the healing process began.
I've seen this in so many women and you can literally feel their pain when you look at their desolate faces.
TODAY’S THOUGHT: You must look after your heart and soul - and body - when going through a crisis. Because unfortunately with the pounds dropping off - despite eating you - it leaves you prone to getting ill. Heaping illness onto heartbreak is a dangerous mix. Slow down and really take care of the precious you!
If you've been watching celebrity Big Brother (go on, admit it's a guilty pleasure!) then you've probably been struck - as I have - by the transformation in Basshunter (Jonas). There he entered with a classic, sophisticated James Bond ‘look’ but then we see his extremely juvenile sense of humour - his fascination with ‘bodily functions’, shall I say?
We saw a striking piece of body language when he told the group he didn't want to be mean and dump sand in someone's bed (or salt as he was mistakenly calling it). There he stood saying he’d take his punishment from Big Brother like a man and most people scoffed at his decision.
Did you see the way he put his hands behind his head? Normally we associate that body language with an alpha male type of confidence - in this case he was literally preventing himself from running away. What out for that sign when you're asking someone a trickier sensitive question - it means they don't like the line of questioning!
Didn't want to get out of my gorgeous, warm and cosy bed this a.m. but when I turned on the radio and heard Wiley’s track, Take That, it energised me - loving that for energising me this morning!
Take care out in that winter wonderland that looks so beautiful - but it's a death trap - I've had two friends fall - and I nearly ended up on my a*se yesterday - did a comedy 'save' stopping myself mid-slip!
Love, Pam X p.s. my hot double chocolate chip cookies yesterday were fab - I should put the recipe up!