Are you troubled by pictures or mentions of their ex?
When we fall in love and get in a relationship with someonewe're bound to come across ‘mentions’ or pictures of their ex - their ex was part of their life and I don’t know anyone who hasn’t been in this position. But these ex-based memories upset many.
We’re discussing this on my ‘Love Doc’ slot today at 8:05 AM with Angela and Spence on the Heart Northwest and Wales breakfast show.
I think people get this back to front - and forget that the person they’re in love with now became that person because of their past experiences – including their past relationships! Wouldn’t it be rather odd if they had never had a relationship before they met you? Turn your thinking around and accept that you wouldn’t have wanted them in some sort of non-relationship bubble until the day they met the wonderful you!
Of course no one should shove pictures of their ex in your face and it’s emotionally unhealthy for them to dwell on pictures or memories of their ex. But if their ex happens to be in group pictures from events in their past, what do you expect them to do? Cut them out with scissors? Seems a bit extreme.
TODAY’S TIP: Don’t forget you have a past – you undoubtedly had an ex or two or more - would you deny your past? Nope - you see it as your life experiences and that’s how you need to view your partner and their past.
Take care of your relationship, Pamx